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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi ABC, welcome to the forum and thanks for posting.
There is certainly evidence of a genetic predisposition to being gay but research with identical twins has demonstrated that environmental, or social factors, also play a role. Hence the "nature versus nurture" debate. It is almost impossible to say whether a kid of his age will be gay, bisexual or straight and there could be other reasons for his playing more with girls - maybe one of the boys bullied him? Or perhaps he feels unable to compete with his brother? Or maybe he simply prefers the games the girls play? Whatever the reason I think you should be wary of trying to force him into playing with boys - as Gareth quite rightly points out we're all unique individuals. Your comment that his brother is not "...like this" could indicate your intense displeasure at the situation and I suggest you explore this further - both your sons need your unconditional love and nurture, and a negative reaction on your part, no matter how subtle, could do more harm than an innocent kid having a preference for girls. Either, or both of your sons could turn out to be gay. Only time will tell.
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