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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi Alleen and thanks for posting here.
I'm sure everyone (who understands Afrikaans) can relate to your current pain and your overwhelming sense of wanting your lover back. You're currently bargaining, desperately searching for a way in which to make her love you more and to bring her back to you. The reality is that there's little you can do - sadly no-one can tell you how to 'make' her love you more. You'll need to accept that.
She has told you that she doesn't love you in the same way any more, which is a very clear and simple statement, but she's also confusing you by saying that the separation is temporary. This sounds like a contradiction which she needs to explain and resolve.
Don't become a victim here. You deserve better. If she wants to terminate the relationship she must do so in a very clear and definite way, failing which you'd be entitled to feel angry that she's not respecting your feelings.
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