Posted by: ALLEEN | 2007/03/05


Goeie dag,

Ek en my lover is nou so 4 dae uit mekaar uit, ek is nog baie lief vir haar en wil ons verhouding probeer red, maar sy sê dat sy meer vir my so lief is nie, en sy sê dat sy nie iemand anders het nie. Sy sê ook dat ons net tydelik uit mekaar is, want sy wil haar kop skoon kry.
Hoe kan ek haar weer verlief op my maak???

Help asb.

Baie dankie

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Hi Alleen and thanks for posting here.

I'm sure everyone (who understands Afrikaans) can relate to your current pain and your overwhelming sense of wanting your lover back. You're currently bargaining, desperately searching for a way in which to make her love you more and to bring her back to you. The reality is that there's little you can do - sadly no-one can tell you how to 'make' her love you more. You'll need to accept that.

She has told you that she doesn't love you in the same way any more, which is a very clear and simple statement, but she's also confusing you by saying that the separation is temporary. This sounds like a contradiction which she needs to explain and resolve.

Don't become a victim here. You deserve better. If she wants to terminate the relationship she must do so in a very clear and definite way, failing which you'd be entitled to feel angry that she's not respecting your feelings.

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Posted by: Spiderman | 2007/03/05

"Hoe kan ek haar weer verlief op my maak???" - JY KAN NIE IEMAND OP JOU VERLIEF MAAK NIE.

Die persoon moet self lief wees vir jou...die feit dat sy sé julle is net tydelik uitmekaar is n teken dat sy sal weer terug na jou toe kom.

Skryf vir haar n brief en verduidelik vir haar hoe jy voel EN los dit dan daar...wag tot sy jou dan weer bel / e-pos.

PS: soms met my boyfriend voel dit vir my hy irriteer my dan wil ek hom vir n tyd lank nie sien nie....ek dink soms het mens daai 'gap' nodig- om n bietjie 'me-time' te skep.

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