Our expert says:
I've known some most excellent women with the same issues - who clean the house before the maid comes, as though they worry that the maid will think less of you if there is any mess to clean up, whereas the maid id probably relieved to see that there is at least some need for her. Such excessive concern about what a maid might think of her, and the assumption that the maid would waste time examining the contents of whatever you throw away, and critiquing it, is over the top.
Overall, it sounds as though your wife may either have an obsessive personality ( useful perhaps if one is an accountant, for instance, but a nuisance in other ways ) or even, if this is severe enough to interfere in her work as it already does in her home life, and obsessive-compulsive disorder, which will respond well to proper expert treatment. See if you can persuade her that there could be a disorder here, exaggerating her otherwise excellent personality traits, which can cause increasing problems, and that she could be far more efficient and happy if this was got under control - and see if she might agree to see a psychiatrist or psychologist for assessment and a discussion of treatment options.
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