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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Hi Not Sexual, welcome to the forum and thanks for posting.
You're certainly not being stupid - there is no "normal" in terms of our sexual needs and we all have different needs in terms of our relationships. Relationships that are primarily based on sex often burn out when the passion dies down and most people would aspire to the qualities you desire from a potential partner. So hang in there and if you meet someone who interests you take is slowly - dating and getting to know the person over time, as opposed to immediately focusing on sex, which many gay men tend to do. Often sex becomes less of a criteria in our relationships as we mature, when we start appreciating other qualities in our relationships, so you may be looking for a mature person.
Good luck to you and please keep posting.
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