Our expert says:
There is utterly no point in insisting on continuing to love a jerk, especially one who doesn't love you or even his child. You KNOW that is a dead end street. You are indulging in fantasies of him, transformed, apologising, and rushing back to your arms to make yopu happier ever after. And you know that will NOT happen. That sort of guy doesn't suddenly switch from rat to cuddlesome. Sounds like you're an excellent person to get together with --- he isn't. Its like a giraffe insisting on romancing a mouse --- you're not built for each other, despite appearances.
EL echoes something I often have to say --- stop telling yourself you can't get over him --- you're struggling to make that false prophecy come true. See a counsellor, if necessary, to get out of this awfully bad habit of insisting that you need this dreadful guy. He perfectly fits the pattern of that old feminist slogan : A woman needs a man ( such as him ) like a fish needs a bicycle.
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