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Of course its not only on the site that people are :judgemental" - everyone else is in real life, too, only they usually don't say it to your face. So it's useful within this website to learn what other people think about the situations we get ourselves into.
I wonder whether the system you have as a couple in terms of dividing expenses, is entirely fair, when considering the amount each needs to pay each month and the amount each of you earns ?
Sounds like he's learned somehow the perfect Passive Aggressive ( as we shrinks call it ) way of working, to kindly ofer to make the tea, and then take so long about it that it's easier for you to do it yourself - but of course he HAS offered !
Can't HE fix the gaps in the fence ? Or are you the only one capable of doing such chores ?
Shouldn't you share the chores around the house fairly, and not only expenses ?
Frankly, wouldn't marriage counselling be a wise investment for you both ? Don't wait until the situation is insoluble before going for help to solve the problems.
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