Our expert says:
I realise that one major issue is lack of attention, but I believe some others are somewhat evident from what you have said.
He fears abandonment and rejection. Based on his past, he has felt rejected and abandoned and he clearly expects you to do the same to him. "You will leave me once you...." can be replaced with "You will (like my mother) abandon me when you....".
He will (at an unconscious level) drive you to fulfil his expectations of abandonment. Sad, but true - so don't let him. Just say "I am here and I am going nowhere!".
His self esteem and self image are both battered and he has become the victim in your relationship and he expects you to be the persecutor. Ask him to stop saying what he is saying, and tell him (if it is true) that you love him and that you are not leaving now or in the future.
Tell me how it goes please.
Life Coach for MEn
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