Our expert says:
Well, congratulations on your determinaton to stop lying. The essence of the problem sounds like your frequent choice to utter a lie, for whatever motive, when you are actually free to choose not to do so. It's often merely an excuse to persuade yourself that lying is done to "save others from being hurt", because lies usually end, eventually, in one or more people being hurt. A consideration for other people's feelings is better seen as a basis for selecting how best to tell the truth, as there are many ways to be truthful, which don't need to include blurting out the most hurtful part of the truth without sensitivity or care.
Having been so painfuly deceived, do you feel in some way entitled to deceive others ? So, yo always get caught out, so you're a lousy liar --- excellent ! Being a skillful liar isn't a good thing. Quit while you're still clumsy at it !
It really sounds as if you have a host of important issues around truth and deception which you would best work through in counselling, with benefits to you and to those you care about.
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