Our expert says:
tbs, I want to treat you with respect by speaking to you directly and honestly, rather than fluffing up my remarks to just be popular with you.
You'll probably not want to hear it, but sensible and kindly people are likely to point out that at 16 it is really dangeous to be so CERTAIn about things --- this sounds like your first experience of love , so you don't have a range of other experiences to judge it by or compare it to. One's first love always feels like this is all there is or could be. It seems far more huge, important and unique than it really is. 16 is NOT an age to be together every moment that is possible --- there are things that are necessary in your life and his, like completing a useful degree of education, and gaining more experience of life and of yourself, things which are important and which you can't postpone till later.
Moving can be frustrating, and of course at this stage you are VERY aware of what you'll miss and what you're leaving behind, and completely unaware of what you are moving to, and what you will still discover and gain from the move. And now there is this conflict with your parents. The more you demand that you must stay with this miraculous guy for ever and ever, the more they fear that this will be ultimately a bad and hurtful relationship for you. And the more they try to prevent you from seeing him, the more you are intent on defying them and being with him anyway.
Don't catastrophize, though --- don't turn all of this into a bigger emergency than it really needs to be. Work hard with your counsellor, and keep your mind open to diferent ways of thinking about this --- you seem to be making up your mind about these things too quickly, too firmly, and without allowing wisdom to play any part in it.
The world is as it is. We may not like all aspects of thatm, but it's the only world we have. With effort, we can gradually change some aspects of it, to better suit how we want things to be. We have to recognize it as it is, to cope with it, and to get as much as we want from it as is possible --- ignoring it, or refusing to accept how it works, just keeps us further from what we want, not closer. And don't think of suicide --- that would be the one totally certain and permanent way to ensure that you would never ever see him again -- surely that's not what you would want ?
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