Our expert says:
He may or may not have bipolar disorder, which may well be helped by proper expert treatment from a psychiatrist, but that does not excuse abusiveness in any form, and is not a feature of the condition.
If he does not take personal responsibility for his choices and behaviours, and their effects, he will not be open to help.
You can deal with your own problems with a therapist / counsellor of your own, and dotn't paint yourself into a corner by extreme statements like "I can't let go of him". If needed, you CAN, even if you have not yet found the way to do so.
You are emotional and hurting, and emotionally hurting - get proper help for it yourself. Maybe if he sees you can improve with help, he might become more interested in seeking help for himself.
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