Our expert says:
So your concern isn't about his breadwinning for his family, but his allocation of time and attention ? He's not really ready for a formal or long-term relationship, if he both sees himself as more unchangeably committed to time spent with his parents and other family than with his spouse, and if he can't see why you would have any problems with his situation. Apart from occasional visits with you, he doesn't sound committed to any traditional or even modern concept of a mariage. He owes you and the children, time and emotional as well as financial support.
Is marriage counselling a possibility ? And you don't mention your own parents or family --- couldn't and shouldn't they also be involved, perhaps in some discussions ?
Any relationship involves compromises, but it should be that one partner always gets the 20 % share , with the 80 & share always going to others.
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