Our expert says:
Stop helping him to get new jobs ( why does he keep needing that ? what goes wro with the previous jobs ? ) He seems to be into a sexist set of assumptions, that pinches only the most convenient aspects of traditional culture to suit himself, and ignores the responsibilities that are supposed to match the privileges. He is NOT entitled to have multiple wives and gfs, nor does he have to earn more than you, unless he can work hard enough to deserve that, on his own. What of the lobola ? Doesn't the rest of his family and yours now have an interest in reminding him of his proper responsibilities ? HIs bejhaviour certainly is suspicious, and of the sort typical of a cheater. What is his excuse for not answering his phone when at his brother's place ?
I doubt whether he'd agree to see a mariage counsellor with you, as he probably considers himself perfect. Maybe you need to consult a lawyer to make sure you know how to protect your interests ? There's no point in continuing to forgive him --- forgiveness ought to be earned by repentance and changed behaviour, so he doesn't qualify.
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