Our expert says:
Some people just as unskilled at showing affection physically, and it may well have much to do with whether they ever saw such affection shown in their family as they grew up. But, as your husband points out, some of us are just much more affectionate naturally, whatever we saw or didnt see our parents do. Marriage counselling, could indeed help a lot, and it should help him, having waited for 8 years for such a solution, to wait until January !
When you mention sexual issues relating to your father, we don't need to climb into that as you don't wish to, but it could well be relevant, as such experiences can lead to one feeling, quite deeply, that physical affection is necessarily linked ( though it isn't ) to more sinister and sexual activities.
And mindful's suggestion is a good one --- move towards the state you want to reach, by small steps.
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