Our expert says:
Frankly, I hate Dr Phil's showing off and over-simplification of issues, so I wouldn't take his show seriously. He wouldn't make a show about the real issues that are relevant here, and couldn't make one about perfectly nice adults who have perfectly good reasons for staying at home --- his program is pure showbiz and so it needs to highlight people abusing the situation and making for neat headlines and comments. If he's promoting excessive or unnecessary guilt, then he's doing a lousy job as a shrink.
His advice on parents needing to kick you out immediately after matric is simply WRONG and downright foolish, and typical of so much of his advice --- glib, over-simplified, at times thoughtless, and doing anything for a cute comment. He also seem to have a pathetically simplistic idea of what contributions a young adult can make to the parents household.
Also, as seem absolutely typical of Dr Phil, he has all the sensitivity to other classes, cultures and ethnicity, of a used tea-bag. In MANY cultures round the world it is not only seen as appropriate for adult children to stay with the family home for many years, but as disturbingly inappropriate for them to leave. Does this guy only ever work with people identical to himself ?
He also speaks with the disturbing arrogance of a rich white man who can do what he pleases, and fails to recognize that economic necessity, among those of us not millionaires, may force some people to stay at home ; or that some choose to stay at home to care for parents who are handicapped or needy.
And if you have any problem like an eating dsorder, it's far more sensible for you to work it out and get beyond it, with the support from your family, than to prematurely move out because an American millionaire thinks you ought to.
MIke and Carol are right ( and by the way, Carol, congrats all round and especially to your son for staying straight for a year after his heroin addiction ! ).
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