Our expert says:
I am glad you are not sexually active. What your friends are doing is 1) not right and 2) dangerous. HIV and STIs are not thing we can play with and the more risky you live the bigger the chance to be a victim of it and then it is too late. They will most likely also not complete school or have good enough grades to go to university.
What worries me is your 56 year old friend and that he has not asked anything in return (YET).This may be a totally innocent & good man, but then why do you 'suppose it is wrong'? You wrote this because deep down in your heart you know you play with fire and you know pay-back time will come. A 56 year old with a family does not entertain 16 year old girls because he needs good conversation!! THis may be a grooming process. Otherwise it can be that you are using his generosity...?
Your perception of abortion as murder - well, ja, I can agree... BUT ask yourself, what is better - an unwanted unplanned child who will be abused or sold into prostitution by druggies or termination of a pregnancy? The ideal is firstly to use the 'Disprin method'to prevent pregnancy (Keep one Disprin at all times between your knees!!)thus abstain and spend the energy on your school work to get a good matric and have a chance for a better future. If this does not work, use contraception and make sure you do not get pregnant. Abortion is not a good replacement for contraception.
THus keep away from the sex and drugs and study. Consult a social worker to assist you to build the relationship with your parents. Stick to support people at your church that you can physically see and report if you feel unsafe. Stay away from friendly people on the net or electronic social networks - we have enough trouble. (This is sad as there are genuine people out there, but it is difficult to know which one is genuine and which one another risk!) Get off this website and get in front of your books and make a success of it. We need people like you to get the next generation on the right path!! Deidre - SASHA
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