Our expert says:
I'm pleased you felt able to raise your concerns here. Be more understanding and forgiving towards yourself. You have tried to do the best you could in a difficult situation. The pregnancy wasn't your fault or his, but accidental. You made a decision that seemed to be the best option at the time, and with the advice of your psychiatrist and your gynae --- you could hadly have done more to be responsible and to try to find the best solution.
Personally, I think that abortions should be illegal UNLESS pre and post-abortion counselling is compulsorily included in the process --- it's just too important to be allowed to be neglected. And your psychiatrist, having advised this course of action, ought to be active in counselling and working with your concerns right now.
You did the best you could, except for not telling your bf who did need to know. Now he will find out. Give him a chance to think about this and to decide how he will respond. If he's at all a pleasant guy, he will probably be upset, but forgiving, given time. At least see how he responds over time, rather than assuming what he might say or do. Maybe add a second SMS to say, something like : " sorry for breaking this news by SMS, but I have been scared to talk to you about this. But once you've thought about this, I'll be pleased to talk with you, as I'm feeling terrible about this."
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