Our expert says:
As Maria says, labels are MUCH less important than how events affected you ; and your own attitude to events not only influences how negatively they do or do not affect you, but as your attitude can change, this gives you the power to control the extent to which you allow such events to influence you.
If there is any useful distinction to be made, I'd say that kids "fool around" and experiment sexually more than most adults wish to recognize, and it is usually out of curiousity ( and often fuelled by inadequate sex education ) and not with any INTENTION of harming the other person, often withough really recognizing that the other person might be deeply upset by it. Whereas when an adult does the same thing with a child, they DO know that it may be deeply disturbing, and still choose to go ahead. It is not experimentation, but a deliberate using of the other person who they know is vulnerable for entirely selfish purposes.
Its not uncommon for the situation to be as you describe, for both parties to initially be willing and to find it enjoyable, but for one to want to go further, or for longer, than the other does, and for it to become unpleasant.
It might be something in your past which still worries you, and would be worth talking through with a counsellor if you were seeign one, but I would not expect it to cause a depression in an adult - though depression is more likely to cause one to review ones life history and worry more about unpleasant events.
As Maia says, discussing it with a psychotherapist / counsellor is ideal, to free you from any unhelpful consequences which might be troubling you
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