Our expert says:
ISO, this sounds extraordinarily similar to another question i have answered recently -- Are you sure you haven't posted it before ? If not, do please check the archives of this column, and compare questions, and answers.
The biological father has rights which the mother cannot take away from him, and the law has recently improved in this respect. See a lawyer, maybe also someone at the maistrate's courts / family advocates. for specific advice on how he should be able to re-assert his rights ( which he must emphasize he NEVER gave up, though she deprived him of them ) and have them required by a court order.
The courts must decide these things in terms of what's best for the child, and not acording to the mother's wishes to be malicious. If it can be established before the court that she has indeed behaved as irresponsibly and cruelly as you describe, the court may well question HER fitness to have acess to the child, rather than the boy's father's.
And if your fiancee did not sign papers authorizing an adoption of the child, the mother could be in some trouble if she has made false statements to this effect.
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