Our expert says:
This man sounds like he needs tough love. No more enabling him, therefore, his granny will have to kick him out, or he has to get treatment.
Right now, she is feeding him (and his addiction) and giving him a roof over his head. What a lovely, charmed love for an addict. Shelter and food, with a nice grandma cluck clucking-over him. Wow. All this while he’s thinking what a bunch of suckers you are.
Enough is enough! He is a 24-year-old man; it is a disgrace that his grandmother has to metaphorically wipe his bum for him. It’s time for action.
All money given to him must be cut off. Immediately. He has to be sent to a rehab, right away. You can contact Taryn on Tel: 021 790 7779 to ask for guidance on this. Her email address is firstname.lastname@example.org
You don’t mention where you live, but we can make a plan.
If he doesn’t want to co-operate, he must find a job, even if it means washing dishes in a restaurant. Should he become aggressive, it is the perfect time to kick him out. Phone the police.
In addition, if he does not agree to rehab, he has to leave his grandmother’s home within 48 hours or the police must be phoned.
There are ways and means to tackle a hardened addict like this and it’s not going to be through treating him with kids’ gloves. He is holding you all hostage, it’s enough now.
Best of luck. Incidentally, it would be recommended that his parents and grandmother attend Narcanon, a programme, free-of-charge, that assists family and friends of addicts. By this time, they too, will need some form of facilitation.
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