Our expert says:
I'm not sure whether there is such a creaure as an "ex-psychologist" - rather like actors, who are never Out of Work, but describe themselves as "resting" between projects. :}
Thanks for you for your support, encouragement and wise comments - your grandshildren are truly fortunate !
I like your image of the therapist admiring his own reflection, as its so apt. I have often wondered whether the process of medical / psychological training in which the young shrinks are often trampled and given disrespect and lack of proper autonomy in the training, might make them more vulnerable to becoming intoxicatd when they encounter admiration ( deserved or undeserved, or both ) in practice.
And I agree with your view of the way someone victimized by such bounday violations may respond, both with the sort of denial you descibe, and an accompanying need to insist on seeing the heart of it as genuine afection, rejecting the idea that it was "only" exploitation or arising from psychodynamics, rather than being earned by her own worthiness.
And you are so right about the value of the gist of a safe and boundaried setting for therapy.
I'm bothered, too, when we're told that the therapist had this or that need or problem in their own life - that to be worked on between them and THEIR therapist - otherwise you have a shrink charging you for sessions in which he primarily works on HIS problems, which is surely cheating financially and psychodynamically !
I hope we will continue to hear more of your most excellent wisdom on this forum, ig !
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