Our expert says:
Anon, children ARE miracles --- but they don't perform miracles. No-one should expect a child to mend a marriage. Only the actual married partners can mend a marriage, and in a situation with these complexities, both partners need to be sincerely and actively engaged in the process, and the help of an experienced mariage gidance counsellor would be very much adviseable. It was irresponsible of him to enable you to become pregnant, if he was having this sort of doubt --- maybe it is the pregnancy itself which brought his feelings of doubt to the surface, as he faces the responsibilities of parenthood.
Don't get hung up on the idea of "letting him go so he may find the happiness he deserves" --- he deserves happiness only as much as you do, and less than the child does. Maybe he reason he hasn't completed the process of falling in love with you, is that he has difficulty falling in love with anyone ; in other words, the obstacle probably lies within him, and not you, so don't blame yourself for whatever he lacks. You're probably right that the two of you could make things work, and could devise a happy marriage, if you could both work on it earnestly, with the assistance of a counsellor. The issues that matter aren't about who's to blame, but who's taking the responsibility to fix things.
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