Our expert says:
Some people have gorwn up that way - they have low self-esteem and low self-confidence, so they experience all criticism, even mild, as an attack, and respond by atacking back. They don't feel like they dare take personal responsibility for their choices and actions, and feel they need to blame someone else for everything that goes wrong in their lives, big or small.
Its good that you started with a couples counsellor, but it sounds as thought that work is incomplete, and that far more needs to be done to enhance especially his skills at negotiating and dealing with disagreements. IF he is willing to take this seriously and to see that his mode of responding is indeed a significant problem, fine. If not, are you sure it is wise for you to remain committed to this particular relationship ?
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