Our expert says:
I really understand your concern. Odd, really, this sort of problem of anticipating problems was impossible in the old days, when there was no way to know that there was any anomaly, until after birth.
You are right that all the things you mention are potential problems, but none are compulsory problems.
It is clear that your son will grow up with parents who really love him, and that is by far the most important blessing he could have. it will take some time before his problem becomes obvious to others outside your family, and before it becomes obvious to him. As he grows, your love will help his confidence to grow, with the basic sense that he's OK. Yes, as one approaches school age, one will discuss with him the possibility that others will be curious, awkward, and, yes, in some instances, rude and stupid. And one can discuss how to deal with that as the problems arise. He can learn that while he's a marvellous guy with an unusual arm, there are other people whose disability is harder to see at first, but their cruelty and lack of understanding of others and respect for other people's feelings, is a far more awful handicap to them ; an that their words and opinions really don't matter, as these merely disclose their inner ugliness.
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