Our expert says:
To start with, you have made a critically important first step, bu recognizing that this is a problem and that you need help with it. Vognitive-Behaviour Therapy, currently the method of counselling with the best proven results and efficiency, would probably be most helpful. It sounds as though the problems are not purely of trust, but issues of self-esteem. And when you think badly of yourself, you assume that any kind comment MUST have an ulterior motive.
And the counsellor could help you deal with your concerns about your husband, maybe even include him in the swessions after a while. Your husband obviously DOES think you are pretty and desirable --- so he is excessively watchful of other men looking at you --- which you, feeling so negative about yourself, interpret to mean that he doesn't think you attractive. IF he thought you were ugly, he wouldn't imagine other men would bother to look at you. Your nearest branch of FAMSA, and of the Anxiety-Depression Support Group ( number on this page ) could advise about CBT-capable counsellors within reach of you.
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