Our expert says:
It seems to be a fact of life that many people, men and women, keep affable and friendly contact with some of their Ex's, without seeing this as romantic or as intrusive in their current relationship, while their current partner most often does see it in this light. The more the content of such exchanges mirrors that of a current relationship, the more unwise this behaviour is, and the more likely it is to be disruptive. He has to face the fact that, as Granny used to say, he can't have his cake and eat it, too. He shouldn't get angry that you don't totally trust him, as he created this situation. Relationship counselling would be the best way to sort this out, as it is a shared problem, not simply something you have to adjust to.
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