Our expert says:
Congratulations on having the courage it took to stand up for yourself and break the toxic relationship. Try calling Lifeline and POWA for some direct counselling and the chance to talk about this situation in more detail, and to choose the best next step. Remember that you have decided, after careful thought, that he doesn't love you and that you shouldn't go back to him. Write this resolution down and carry it with you, to re-read when your determination wavers. Arrange to see a good local counsellor ( it'd be worth far more than the rands wasted on him ) to help you remain free from him, and to avoid further toxic relationships and wait for the wholesome one you deserve. And keep in touch on the forum and let us know how you're getting on.
And "been hurt" thanks for your insightful comments, too.
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