Our expert says:
You know, I'm not worried about a man who has an interest in pictures of attractive women --- it doesn't in itself include or suggest actual infidelity towards his own lady. But when he emphasizes displaying his bikini-clad posters or calendars at his work, or on his cell-phone, it's no longer about his private day-dreams, it's about displaying something to other males, as if pathetically trying to convince THEM that he's a red-blooded he-man. And that suggests to me a man with low self-esteem. It's just like the aging men of failing virility who suddenly have to buy and ride enormous motor bikes ( so they can try to prove that they still have something large and powerful between their legs ) or who buy tiny sports cars they may have to use a shoe-horn to ease their swelling bellies into.
Usually, there's a complete dissociation between this display behaviour, which is more like the old grey-back gorilla beating his chest in the jungle, so as to impress others, and actual love and affection for the woman in his live. So it probably has nothing to say about him lacking love for you, such as he's capable of, but more about a lack of love for himself and of self-confidence. As for not wanting to talk about a long-term future, basically, guys are lazy, and if they're getting most of what they want in their relationship at present, they may not feel any drive to change it. Women are often more inclined to look forward, and plan for the future, while guys may decide to just enjoy today, and think about tomorrow when it comes. And the ladies seem to grow up and mature faster than the lads.
In the end there's no substitute for talking things through with him, whenever a good opportunity arises, and without nagging. As Sean says, evaluate the Big Picture together ; and that's a picture not appearing on any calendars.
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