Our expert says:
YOu've run into a pretty inevitable phase of "swinging", which most of its proponents try to ignore. You cannot express your special love for one person, by hectically sharing physical love with multiple other people. That's like expressing your sobriety by getting drunk as often as possible, with as many different types of booze as you can find.
But maybe I'm misunderstanding what you mean by swinging. When you write of " The excitement that we were sharing something only between the two of us " doesn't make any sort of sense. Sharing sex with other people "only between the two of us " ?
Jealousy is inevitable in such situations. And why should swinging solve the problem of you both neglecting to "take time to communicate" any more --- sit right down, right now, and communicate --- why do other people have to get involved for the pair fo you to communicate with each other ? Rather see a marriage counsellor and work on what sounds like a severely disordered relationship that could probably be put right. Swinging was merely a distraction that enabled you to fool yourselves that things were improved.
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