Posted by: Patience | 2007/11/26

Thinking of divorce

I am young with three kids and only married for four years, my husband is constantly cheating on me, and I catch him everytime via reading sms and he says I envade his privacy, and I should trust him, everytime I want to ensure I can trust him I always find that I can't, I love him but I can't stand the betrayal. I feel I deserve better but I can't seem to think clearly or make the first step, my life just revolves around our kids and our plans. I feel so incomplete and helpless

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If he is having affairs, an thus endangering your health and life, his behaviour IS your business, and not something he is entitled to keep private. Why should you trust a serial cheater who repeatedly betrays you ? Of course you deserve better than this. See a personal counsellor to gain self-confidence and work out what will be best for you and the children

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Posted by: helen | 2007/11/28

hi there

dnt waste ur time with this man.... men who flirt or have affairs with other women have no respect for there spouse... i've been married for 7years my hubby has always been flirting with other women... and this has made me felt unattractive, given me alow self esteem but i am leaving him permanenetly cause you cannot live with someone you do not trust.... leave him... you will find someone who loves you for who yo are

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Posted by: ?????@@@ | 2007/11/27

The problems with GUYS :

If u TREAT him nicely, he says u are TOO IN LOVE, moving too fast;
If u Don't, he says u are PROUD .

If u DRESS NICELY, he says u are trying to LURE other men;
If u DON?T, he says u are RURAL.

If u ARGUE with him, he says u are STUBBORN, too manly;
If u keep QUIET, he says u have no BRAINS, a walkover ..

If u are SMARTER than him, you?re a SHOW-OFF;
If he's SMARTER than u, he is GREAT.

If u don't LOVE him, he tries to POSSESS u;
If u LOVE him, He takes you FOR GRANTED. (very true huh?)

If u don't MAKE LOVE to him, he says u DON?T LOVE him;
If u DO, he says u are CHEAP.

If u tell him your PROBLEMS, he says u are TROUBLE;
If u DON?T, he says u don't TRUST him.

If u SCOLD at him, u are treating him like a CHILD;
If he SCOLDS at u, it?s because he CARES for u.

If u BREAK your promise, u cannot be TRUSTED;
If he BREAKS his, it is circumstances beyond his CONTROL.

If u SMOKE, u are BAD girl;

If u do WELL in your career, it's LUCK ;
If he does WELL, it?s definitely BRAINS.

If u HURT him, u are CRUEL;
If he HURTS you, you are too SENSITIVE !!


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Posted by: ?????@@@ | 2007/11/27

Is time u think about you, and you alone, then your kids, you need to find a way to make yourself happy in order to make those kids happy. love yourself then he will love you back, stop putting other people first than u. start by makeover, then u'll see.

How men change

The Love Word:
After 6 weeks: I looo-ve you, I love you, I love you!
After 6 months: Of course, I love you.
After 6 years: GOD, if I didn't love you, then why did I marry you?

Back from Work:
After 6 weeks: Honey, I'm home!
After 6 months: I'm BACK!!
After 6 years: Have you cooked yet?

Phone Ringing:
After 6 weeks: Baby, somebody wants you on the phone.
After 6 months: Here, it's for you.
After 6 years: ANSWER THE PHONE DAM*T!!

After 6 weeks: I never knew food could taste so good!
After 6 months: What are we having for dinner tonight?
After 6 years: DUMPLING AGAIN??

New Dress:
After 6 weeks: Wow, you look like an angel in that dress.
After 6 months: You bought a new dress again?
After 6 years: How much did THAT cost me?

After 6 weeks: Baby, what would you like us to watch tonight?
After 6 months: I like this movie.
After 6 years: I'm going to watch PIRATES play, if you're not in the
mood, go to bed, I can stay up by myself!

Making LOVe:
After 6 weeks: Baby, I want you tonight?
After 6 months: Lets make another baby, my mother just called!!!
After 6 years: Please MOVE over to your side, I'm suffocating here!!!!

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