Our expert says:
Sounds like the kid is being a bit more alarming and annoying than the average adolescent. I like RMC's approach here. He has to understand that there is no way you OWE him an R 8000 course, especially as by dropping out of school he has shown an impaired capacity to persist and achieve within a course. And he is old enough to take responsibility for the choices HE made, including dropping out of school, and for the effects these choices have on his life. As Britty says, don't accept his invitations to feel guilty, and don't enable him to blackmail you.
Make it clear that you care about him and what happens to him, and willsupport him, to the extent that you can, in realistic moves to get his life right. He ca get a job and earn the money to pay for the course he wants --- and if he does it that way, he'll be unlikely to be as ready t waste his own money as to waste yours.
You havent said what the 'terrible rumours" are, but these two he could deal with in counselling, to choose the most useful way of responding to them.
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