Our expert says:
Your son is at the point of entering puberty, and quite often at this time there is an upsurge in aggressive and non-compliant behaviour, in both boys and girls. They can also become emotionally withdrawn and non-communicative but this is quite typical during early or pre-adolescence. This can also affect school performance. However, it is also important that whilst you are displaying understanding for your son at this point in his development it is crucial that you maintain the boundaries that you see as required by a parent.
If you start to let the boundaries slip at this point it will make for a very difficult time throughout his adolescence for both of you. Teenagers naturally push at parental limits, but it is important that when you feel you need to that you stand firm. Of course as he gets older there should be more negotiation about things, but there will still be times where you need to say no to things, and there is nothing wrong with you doing that. If his school work continues to deteriorate it would be useful to have a discussion with the school as to why they think this is happening.
Above all as an understanding mom, trust your instincts about what you feel is acceptable or not, and ensure you continue to give the message that as the parent you are in charge and that that is how it will stay for a few years to come! Firm, fair and caring is a great combination!
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