Our expert says:
I salute your general wish to bring happiness. There are indeed many potntial problems associated with being a surrogate, such as giving up the baby --- and that's in the easier situation when the surrogate is a stranger to the family. I'd expect it to be FAR more difficult in your situation, because you would remain in close contact with the parents and child. Assuming the pregnancy was achieved by artificial insemination, there could still be a feeling on the mother's side that her husband had somehow been unfaithful. How would you handle it if the child ( like any child ) became unhappy about something, or if you had some doubts about their parenting skills --- could you manage to remain uninvolved ? What if the child semed to become, at any stage, more fond of it's "Aunti" than its mother ? It may be worth exploring such themes with a counsellor. And there may be all sorts of official red tape, such as that involved in AI. Explore the legalities. Are there any official and properly conduicted surrogacy programs in SA that could help them, rather than thsi do-it-yourself idea ? Don't rush into this, however wholesome your motives.
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