Our expert says:
If you were married by arrangement ( in other words the marriage didn't arise out of existing love ) and he was abusive, he would be maturallu hard to love and its hardly surprising that you fell in love with someone who was kindly and non-abusive.
But I don't quite understand who's who. When you speak of your "present husband" is that the original abusive husband, or did you marry the new man, and he then turned seedy with the nude pictures on his phone, etc ? You seem to be speaking of 2 husbands, which confuses me.
Overall, though, wouldn't it be wise for you to see a counsellor, perhaps a marriage counsellor, and after some sessions on your own, ask your husband to join you, and see what can be sorted out ?
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