Our expert says:
I am sure it was very hurtful to be told that because of your voice someone was not interested. People find different aspects of others attractive or unattractive regardless of sexual orientation. For some gay guys they prefer a more 'masculine' boyfriend, others a more 'feminine' boyfriend and others do not differentiate in this way.
For you its is about being confident of who you are. If you are going to be happy you need to be with someone who accepts you for who you are, otherwise you will end up feeling hurt. You can't just forget what your ex said but you do have to begin to move on from this and value yourself more.
Rather then feeling it is too risky to talk on the phone, perhaps consider meeting rather than talking on the phone. Then you both get to meet the real person and go from there. If you do decide to meet please be safe about this. Let friends know where you are going, and make sure it is a public place where there are others around such as a shopping centre, and until you are ready don't give out details of where you live.
Above all, don't let other people tell you what is right and wrong about you - decide these thigs for yourself and be yourself this way you will find someone who is genuinely interested in you because you have shown them the real you!
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