Posted by: CS | 2007/11/28


Hi Dear Cs

I’ve got an appointment for Ne at the gynae that will handle the sterilization. How on earth am I going to handle this, with this child? It has to be done before the 1st period and it could happen anytime from March....So I cannot postphone it anymore.

I’ve always taught her that NO ONE not even me touches or looks there and that she must even wash there herself…..

How do I now teach her or tell her “let the man touch you” or “look at you”…..

I can’t imagine how…he will have to look because there is something I feel that is not right and needs looking at apart from the opp.

When I took her to the pediatric neurologist already she was shy and tried to stop him when he felt her spine ect.

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Now, Sigmund Freud would have considered it HIGHLY significant that you signed off with MY nick and not yours. But I will make no comment !
I understand that with a child with Ne's special limitations, you need to keep the instructions about not allowing anyone else to see or touch her "there" fairly simple, but I think one should make the rule ( and in this case clearly amend the rule and explain it carefully ) "EXCEPT for a doctor" ! There are too many situations in which she may, throughout life, need medical attention, and should not find that frightening or bothersome.

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Posted by: Maria | 2007/11/28


I had to take my five year old to the gynae recently, and it's really difficult. It was a rather traumatic visit for both of us, because not only was he a man touching her privates, he actually hurt her a bit. Because he thought he might to do a more comprehensive checkup he suggested that we do it under general anaesthetic. Luckily this wasn't necessary in the end, but it is an option.

You wrote a while ago that she was very upset and emotional, is it going better now?

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Posted by: CP MOM | 2007/11/28

Sorry IT'S CP MOM, dont know why i called myself CS - going mad!

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