Our expert says:
From the constant flood of questions I receive about cheating, one would think there must be a virtual epidemic of cheating going on, at least that a great many people just don['t take responsibilities within relationships at all seriously. SO he had a fantasy, and went out to "experience" it, even though this was certain to hurt you. If he has a fantasy about jumping off a cliff, will he trot off to 'experience" that, too, though that one would hurt him ?
Your tit for tat cheating was nasty and even more deliberate. From the complexities that seem to be arising --- you need to explore these facts within the therapy and with the aid of your therapist, ( rather than unfairly expecting him to remain feeling guilty and admitting his actions, while you keep yours secret ? ) and work this out more thoroughly and usefully ?
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