Our expert says:
Hello, apologies for this oversight and the delay in your reply....
Let's set the record straight, both men and women 'turn down' their partners, or avoid sex. I do believe that it is currently more the case for women though...This is probably due to a number of reasons.
1. Like many men, many women are sexual only when they have sexual desire/libido. The difference is than the male libido (related to testosterone levels which do not fluctuate much) is usually much more consistant and robust than is the case for women. Libido tends to fluctuate naturally in a woman's life (over the course of the menstrual cycle, with pregnancy) and quite commonly lessens a few years into a committed relationship. As a result, these women are left having to 'drive' their sexual response - this is like driving on a cold engine - it takes a lot more work to run smoothly and it can stall more easily!
2. The female sexual response does not appear to be as robust as many men's. Women may loose interest in sex when they are stressed, due to tiredness from work or looking after the household, etc.
3. Some people develop sexual problems or have a fear of sex for some reason - could be abuse in childhood, could be pain caused by a physical problem, could be anxiety about sexual inadequacy - in such circumstances people (men and women) frequently 'turn their partner down'.
4. Of course some women do refuse sex as part of the dynamic in a relationship - if angry or hurt for example.
Ultimately, it sounds for one of your comments that you are still enjoying frequent sex with your husband and that is wonderful - I have no doubt that there are many women (and men) who are envious of your position. Unfortunately this is not true for many women (and men) and this may be very distressing...
Claire - SASHA
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