Our expert says:
I wish to first congratulate you on taking care of your sexual health (always testing for HIV with a new sexual partner)!
I believe that you have no problem at all but that your body has become conditioned to masturbation. Maybe, you can ask your partner to masturbate you and focus on non-penetrative sexual activities between you and your partner. Hopefully, once you have experimented and experienced diverse stimulation and arousal you will be able to ejaculate (try different sexual positions and the use of sex aids such as feathers, chocolate, cream, flavoured condoms, etc, with each new stimulis you will have a heightened sense of arousal which may trigger an ejaculation).
A word of advice: this may take a number of attempts to rectify! If you have a series of failures please be aware that it is not you or your partner's fault! Ejaculation is just one small facet of the sexual experience, try reconceiving sexuality and all its facets as just as important, ie: huggs, kisses, arousal, foreplay, cuddling, tasting, licking, massaging etc, by viewing sex as this, you will be a success no matter what!
Sex is a journey, enjoy every aspect of the ride!
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