Posted by: 23 | 2008/07/04

SEX, be all and end all?

please dont tell me to post is the sex forum.

So my GF does not want to have sex, we only have sex like 2 times a month and when she has cum, she tells me that she wants to sleep.

when i talk to her about it, she always starts crying because she think i'm going to cheat on her.

i want to break up with her because i think sex is a big part of life.
But i dont think i can live without her, we have so much fun with other things we do. she make me happy in so many ways. but i need the sex part of it, it feel more like she is becoming my best friend!

any thoughts, please help me.

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Have you told her the nice things you say about her in your last paragraph ? Such problems can be relieved, with the help of a relationship counsellor or shrink. But don't make her feel that there's something wrong with her or that this is her fault. There are many possible reasons for a person having a low libido ( low level of interest in sex ), most of them can be relieved.
I like Moon's comment about sex being the cherry and not the cake itself. In fact, without a good cake, the sex itself gets boring and unsatisfying after a time. Work on both ingredients, together

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Posted by: 23 | 2008/07/04

well said -III- i'm will you 100% on this one!

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Posted by: -|||- | 2008/07/04

Moon, I'm sure you're asking your Q just to be 'difficult' ? The botom lne is this: If things are going well between the sheets, sex makes up 20% of the relationship. If your sex life sucks, it makes up 80% of the relationship. There's no such thing like choosing between sex and love !

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Posted by: Moon | 2008/07/04

So A-nonnie... You'd have a relationship with sex and no love rather than no sex and lots of love?

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Posted by: a-"nonnie" | 2008/07/04

Sex is VERY important and I understand your frustration. I think it brings you so close to the one you love .....i dont think i'd stick around.

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Posted by: Moon | 2008/07/04

Sex, me dear friend, is the CHERRI on the cake - not the CAKE...
I agree, a cake is not rounded of, and simple not that nice if the cherri is not on top...
But also, the cherri is but a couple of %points of the entire cake... Maybe 10%

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Posted by: longjohnsilver | 2008/07/04

go to a sex therapist with her

either your girlfriend has issues with sex (maybe due to past experiences etc) or a very low libedo.

both can be sorted out.

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