Our expert says:
Only you know the true answer to that question, Jane. FInding that one has been deceived by a loved one ( even if for highly understanable reasons ) -- especially as you seem to have tried hard to have an open and trusting relationship with her --- but you know, I'd guess, from your personal experience, that even with a great mom, your sexual experiences are not something you're eager to talk about.
And the second alternative is likely, too --- sex is one of the demarcating signs of the child having become a woman, and moving beyond the control of your love.
Handling this situation well may make a major diference in ensuring that you can develop your relationship into a good friendship between a mature and a maturing woman.
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