Our expert says:
I'm sure that things haven't changed that much from my time - usually there are steps before becoming sexual, like intimate kissing, the odd roaming hand, etc...what is the feedback you get from this? When in a situation like this, ask her what she likes/feels comfortable with, etc. You could also speak less directly about other people and see what her response is to this...If it looks as though she is interested, perhaps you could begin to speak more directly about what you and she are ready to do (and also very importantly, how you can protect yourselves sexually).
I'm really pleased that you want to talk about it - it's very important to discuss issues like readiness, what it would mean not to have sex, etc. However, you have also only been together for 2 months, what is the rush?
I am also a little worried that you refer to persuading her - even though this is without pressure, this is a big step for many people and is ideally something that needs no persuasion, but something that both parties WANT and feel ready for.
Being sexual involves a lot more than just penetration (which I'm guessing is what you are referring to), it involves intimate touch and exploration in a trusting relationship. Don't just go for what is considered a 'goal' (i.e. orgasm via oral sex/penetration), try to learn about touch, pleasure and communication, and if it progresses to orgasm in one way or another, then fine but please make sure you use a condom, and enjoy the journey...not just the destination.
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