Our expert says:
If you are indeed in a loveless and sexless marriage, and your husband is not open to working with marriage counsellors to solve these problems, then see a lawyer and end the marriage, before you start geting involved in adulterous relationships with guys while vulnerable to a risky degree.
And in any relationship, never mistake the wooing phase when both of you are trying hard to delight the other, with whatever is likely to be the long-term nature of the relationship.
See a counsellor to work on finding the best solutions to your dilemmas ; and see a good psychiatrist, maybe from a nearby medical schhol, to check whether there are helpful medications it would be safe for you to take.
And CBT ( Cognitive-Behaviour Therapy ) is a psychological treatment which good research has found often as effective as medication.
This other guy needs to be discussed with your counsellor, as his behaviour sounds contradictory and unhelpful
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