Posted by: Confused | 2008/10/17

Selfish/Jealous man??

Hi there, I' ve beeing seeing this guy for a short while (2wks) and I suspect that he is only after me for s& x. He is quite sweet and incredibly sexy but everytime I see him he just paws at me and it drives me insane. I like affection as much as the next person but this just seems excessive. I saw him last night (I was annoyed already because he said that he would be at my house at 9pm and then only pitched up at 10pm (from a function). We slept together last night for the 1st time and it wasn' t exactly brilliant. At one point I actually thought he had fallen asleep! Once it was over he just rolled over and said Ok, turn out the light now. And that was it! I was so mad I couldn' t sleep!! He also seems like the jealous type. I am going to a braai tonight with a group of friends cos a friend of mine from overseas is visiting and arrives today. He wanted to go out tonight and I told him about the braai. He' s like, he doesn' t like me going cos there are going to be a whole lot of other single guys there and people always get up to mischief at braais!?? I was very annoyed about that and he said that I must tell everybody that I' m seeing someone. I get the feeling that this may be a bad step getting involved with him. Any thoughts please advise!

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It does indeed sound as though he may be using you, and certainly as though he has little interest in you other than as a source of sex. Apart from the sex, is this really all you want from a relationship ?

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Posted by: Confused | 2008/10/17

Thanks for all the replies. You have certainly helped out. I think I will go with my gut. Btw Haibo - I' m not easy! He is the one declaring undying love to me not the other way round! And the braai is a whole bunch of friends. You don' t sleep with friends that you' ve known for years!
Thank you to everyone else who has helped and given decent answers.

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Posted by: Haibo | 2008/10/17

U got involved with him for 2 weeks then slept with him already?Maybe he saw how esay u are and took advantage...and maybe he saw how easy u are and he is just thinking u will be easy with other guys at the braai...I dont blame him,ur a cheap skirt!!

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Posted by: anon | 2008/10/17

where are u staying because he sound like someone i know
who need you for sex after that he is gone until the next session

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Posted by: ? | 2008/10/17

end it.

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Posted by: HI | 2008/10/17

Follow your gut feeling - he sure sounds like bad news. If I were you I' d get rid of him NOW! He' s behaving like a psyco and you are only seeing each other for 2 week? I think he' s got an ego problem.

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Posted by: smile | 2008/10/17

I think you should tell him that the sex wasn' t that good and you think you should take things low and get to know each very well before setting the rules for each other.

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Posted by: oza | 2008/10/17

he rolled over after was it satisfying sex ? was he tiered from exhaustion or was it a average wham bam thank you mam, if that’ s the case he is using you to satisfy his needs you don’ t mention age ?,

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Posted by: v | 2008/10/17

Why not take him with to the braai and see how your friends feel about him... at least then u will get an upinion of him from people u know and trust...

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Posted by: Garfield | 2008/10/17

Why did you sleep with him if you seem so uncertain about him?

He doesn' t exactly sound as if he is enamoured with you ... just rolling over and going to sleep after the first time sleeping with someone sounds a bit suspect.

I would tread cautiously if I were you

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