Our expert says:
Berry, I'm sure before long you'll realize that one doesn't need money and a "huge party" to have a happy 21st birthday, or any other birthday. Talk to dad who probably doesn't intend to be overbearing, and surely the two of you can work that out ( and it's your task to work on this, not only his ). And your mother is dealing with Cancer, for Pete's sake --- I hope you've done nothing to make her feel bad because she didn't throw you some enormous show-off affair for your birthday --- that she's still here, and loves you, is a large gift, already.
If you can afford to pay, by yourself, for a "huge party" you must be far luckier financially than most other 21 year-olds.
Actually, the party is irrelevant, and people who throw "huge" ones are showing off their insecurity and lack of good sense. What's more important, if you take anything about a 21st seriously, is the issue of acknowledging that you have become an adult, with the responsibility of behaving like an adult, towards yourself and towards others.
So dry those self-indulgent tears ( party or no party is a really tiny issue in the great scheme of things ) ; have a happy birthday and welcome to the adult world of facing reality and making the best of it.
The information provided does not constitute a diagnosis of your condition. You should consult a medical practitioner or other appropriate health care professional for a physical exmanication, diagnosis and formal
advice. Health24 and the expert accept no responsibility or liability for any damage or personal harm you may suffer resulting from making use of this content.