Our expert says:
OK, you had a disgracefully dreadful, careless, unloving and selfish father. You owe him nothing whatsoever. Sasly, your mother persisted in unrealistic hopes for him, which eventually killed her.
The boys, living with a dreadful father like that, and a mother who taight them to accept every irresponsible thing the father did, accidentally taught them that they could and should live selfishly and irresponsibly, like their dad.
It's understandable that you have tried to help this brother, but he clearly doesn't appreciate it. That another woman with more hope than sense has chosen to have children with him is very sad. But helping thr kids by giving money or indeed anything to him, is no help to them. Maybe they'd be better off if Child Welfare became involved and saw that they had a chance of living with people who would care for them properly.
When the gf calls, tell her she should see welfare and gt help for herself and the kids, and stop expecting that miraculously he will stop being selfish and become a fit parent. As with your mother, she apparently does not want to face facts, but if so she should not expect other people to pay to enable her to remain foolish and irresponsible, and to damage her kids. You will not succeed in persuading him to see the light.
Consider getting child welfare involved in protecting the kids, and let him and the unfortunately self-deluded woman care for each other. The moeny you give him, as you seem to have recognised, only supports his bad habits, and discourages any good conduct
Whatever misfortune befalls him is his own making, and not your fault.
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