Posted by: Visitor | 2008/07/14

Relationship not working

Morning guys, im not regularly on this site but i log on now and then and i must say that i really like most of your brilliant advices.

Been in relation with bf for 3 years everything was going well but suddenly he has changed im not sure any more. He stays away for long periods without saying anything then i call him and we meet to discuss the issue which he keeps saying evrything is fine theres nothing wrong then he repeats the same thing agaian and again until last week when we spoke and it seemed he made up his mind to improve his behaviour.

Yesterday when he called me around 4pm and said he was coming to fetch me i was sleeping cos i had a migraine and he's aware that i suffer from this. Anyway, he came and i went with him thinking that we were going to his place as usual only to find that we went to visit some friends who had a braai. I was surprised cos he knew i was not feeling well. We went to his place around 8pm. When we went to bed we had sex and later during the night he woke me up and wanted more when i refused he became so angree and when we got up this morning he started telling me that is why men want "isithembu" (polygamy)because their women have too many excuses how can i refuse to have sex with him just because of a headache. I was so furious and now im having second thoughts about us. Please advise me.

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OK, so we can respect genuine cultural customs to a degree --- but people ( and it so often seems to be men, doesn't it ? ) who pick and choose, only those aspects of customs which suit their selfish desires, and ignore the responsibilities that usually go along with these, are not being fair and actually abusing their own culture. How selfish he is, to ignore your illness and your own feelings --- does he really think that life is meant to revolve around nothing except a man's sexual desires and his selfish convenience ?

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Posted by: Visitor | 2008/07/14

Oh yes No No!! I did confront him on several occasion but he denys it. But i am suspecting that there is someone. What surprises me is that I tried twice to terminate the relationship in 3 weeks but he just does not want to back off, instead he tells me he is not prepared to loose me, I still love him but im not sure anymore.

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Posted by: No No!! | 2008/07/14

Shame Visitor i think ut man is seeing someone already hence the disapearances..How can he be so insensitive, he knows u suffering from migraines and he does this?

I think u need to speak to him about his behaviour and he needs to be honest with u as to tell u that there is a third person already involved in his life...

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Posted by: Petro | 2008/07/14

When Iam sick my b/f never worries. He does not run around getting me a tablet to make me feel better, nothing. it does not cross his mind. some men are self centred only thinking about themselves.

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