Our expert says:
He is foolish to lurch into a consulting business in a field where apparently he doesn't yet have sufficient status to have people want to buy his advice. Far better to take a well-paying job within the field, and grow his reputation before making such a move. And to do so while expecting you to carry all the expenses isn't acceptable ( I wonder whether his prior record of living at home and driving his mother's car shouldn't have warned you that he isn't keen on supporting himself and apparently has never done so, so far ? )
I doubt that we can give you any magic words. YOu need to choose a calm time if possible, when there is time to talk, and simply tell him that this relationship is not working out and that you have to give priority to your committments to your child and mother, and especially as he doesn't share expenses or repay loans, you can't aford to continue to keep him. Don't allow him to make you feel bad. Insist that he must stop using your car ( maybe take it and leave it for a time in a friend's garage? ) and must pay all the fines he has accumulated, and make plans to move out, even if initially back to his mother's home, and to look after himself. Try to make it clear that you don't have ugly feelings for him, but rather a lack of feeling and a concern that he is a luxury you simply cannot afford, and that it is time he took responsibility for caring for himself.
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