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I remmber your previous communications. I wonder how he manages to resist the urge to cross dress while working in the mid-east, where they are likely to be highly intolerant of such behaviour. Sounds like he decided to talk only about the anger issues with his therapist, because that was what he had promised to do, while deciding to hide everything else, whereas as I often remind patients, by lying to your therapist, or hiding significant facts, you cheat only yourself.
Are the "gender" issues important in relation to your feeling that you no longer love him ? Are they, indeed, an issue for you ( as some other people might consider this relatively harmless compared to other potential oddities ) ? Or is it possible that, for instance, you may have become Depressed, for whatever reason ( mor none ) and that this is contributing both to your loss of loving feelings, and your tendency to find it hard to see hope for the relationship ?
I gather some of these overseas contracts can pay well, but is there perhaps an element of escapism ( from troublesome aspects of the relationship, or perhaps something else ) in his focus on wanting to work in distant places ?
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