Our expert says:
If he continues to refuse to accept the help he needs, that's very sad, but he has chosen the path he insists on following. But he is in no state to forbid you to do anything or to prefent you from seeking and getting the help you need and deserve. He is his own responsibility, first and foremost. You were not given a life sentence of hard labour for him. Slavery was abolished some years ago. CANSA and Hospice people are ( or should be ) used to dealing with difficult people who take out their anger on others, especially if fore-warned of how he is. You must treat yourself with the consideration and care you are wasting on him. This is a form of ongouing wife abuse, and maybe you should also discuss it with POWA.
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