Our expert says:
Gosh,that sounds awfully expensive. I'd be worried that if one was receiving so much from each spouse separately, it'd be a financial loss to actually solve their problems ! It is always a risk in such situations that a therapist may indeed, for various reasons and perhaps without even realizing it, side with one or other. WHen a therapist sees both together, it's more obvious to one or both spouses and harder to ignore.
Where each spouse has personal issues they need to deal with before marriage counselling, it's often better to have separate therapists for that phase, in my experience.
ut a therapist may be unaware either that he MAY be favouring one rather than the other, or that at least he may be giving that impression, so needs to be told so as to take this into account.
Like anyone in therapy, sometimes we just don't conect sufficiently with a therapist, nomatter how skilled, and would be better served seeing someone different, and good and experienced therapists know that this happens and should not feel offended.
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